Here today we see Harvey and Archer having a chat, Harv' just pulled his paws in as Archer over enthusiastically tried to lick them.I didn't for a moment imagine that gaining Harvey's trust would be easy and no miracle has occurred. But we have made progress, noticeable progress. I let Harvey have the run of the house for a few days but soon realised he was actually regressing as there was no need to be seen. He would sit under my desk while I worked, but there was no interaction with any of us - other than Archer's one sided efforts, which were 'allowed'. So I returned Mr Harvey to the laundry with occasional side trips to the dining /kitchen. I also committed to spending at least half an hour three times a day with him. That has blown out to about three hours a day as I take some sewing or a book and chat while I visit. I also instigated the no socialising equals no food rule. It was hard, very hard, and I have cried. But I take food with me and place it about 30cm in front of Harvey and then go and sit on the other side of the room. If he does not eat I take it away with me. As you can see he is not starving - but at one stage I worried he might. Just as I was about to cave in he took the three or four steps of trust he needed to and enjoyed a combination of tuna, dried food and a little natural yoghurt. He likes to eat at night and I have a disgusting tin of sardines (human consumption grade) which Phantom and Charles love, hopefully that will be enough for him to take the risk for a second day in a row.
I am sitting on the floor and chatting to him as I wriggled my toes - he seemed to find them entertaining.
Today Harvey gave for the first time. At the end of a long chat session I was patting him and he actually edged closer and pushed his head into my hand, nuzzling, looking for a head rub. After a minute he realised that he WAS trusting, looked a little surprised, pulled away and walked (not skittered, or ran), just walked away. Bliss.
Do you see the change? I hope so.